A biological need...

[Anneke]

Hm, hard subjct this one. Please don't forget that (some) women have a biological need to get children. Your whole body cries for it. I can't explain how it feels (especially in English, a foreign language for me). When you feel like this, adoption is not really an answer to your needs (even if, ofcourse, I believe in the idea of itself). It's more then just "wanting a kid" and "being a mom", it's your body that wants to grow a new life inside of it.

[ALex]

Hey Anneke, of course this is something that as a man I cannot completely understand, but surely I have seen this need with my 3 sisters all having children. This idea is just to "think about" and consider one of the millions of unwanted children or pets in the world. It seems almost unfair not to.

[Supergirl]

I agree with you ... both

I really want to have a baby , to be a mom, but i think that it's a good think to adopt a kid too

I thank God everyday to have my parents, ....so I really want to help children who don't have parents

(i don't know if my english is good :p )


ps : salut Anneke..!!

[Anneke]

Ofcourse I agree with Alex about the "consider it". I always think I would have babies the natural way and then adopt (even if some people say: "there's a difference between your "real" and "adopted" kids). I have know some people (I don't want to go into details, since it's their personal life) who really have to make a choice between "natural" kids or adoption and they say it's a really hard choice, especially when biologically you are still able to have some.
What I think is a personal idea is to be a host for children who have to be temporarly placed in a family (I think in English it's "hostfamily"??). When you have a stable familylife, it's probably a good environment to host those kids temporarly.

[stopXthinkXgo]

I have to say i dissagree, both me and my brother were adopted because my mother couldnt have children, and sometimes adoption is the answer, im not going to have a child of my own im going to adopt one, i wont adopt one from another country though cause i already know how difficult i is when your young being adopted so i think yes you should adopt but befor you adopt that cute little chineese baby think about how its going to be growing up with two parents possibly not from its race.

[Stefann]

as much as i can't stand children and don't have the patience for them, i am starting to feel this need to have a baby before i'm too old and i run out of ovaries. it's so strange. however, i don't know if i really want to bring a kid into a world as screwed up as this. i keep going back and forth between that idea and the idea that there are so many great things in life, too.

the comment about adopting a chinese kid: i wanna adopt a little chinese girl. i'd like to hope that parents are teaching their kids that it's ok to have parents who are gay or of two different races, or that it's ok to be friends who aren't like them.

at any rate, it's a tough situation.

[beautyburns]

This is definitely a hard issue to think about. When I was growing up I always had the image of the "perfect family" with biological children and everything. I understand what previous posts meant by the biological need comment but I think my perspective changed a lot after my mom started to do foster care. There are so many kids out there that really need families to take care of them and even though it can be emotionally draining I don't know if I could live in good conscience knowing there were all these kids without good homes. At this point in my life I am seriously considering adoption over pregnancy. There is such an overhelming need for adoptive parents even in the US much less "third world countries." Plus once these kids are living in your house 24/7 you become really attached to them, it may be hard to imagine if you've never had the experience but biology doesn't really matter at that point, they become part of you.

[Supergirl]

i agree for the first part but i don't know if i can think about adoption over pregnancy

[Anneke]

As I said before... I totally understand the needs for adoption-families and the fact that you can love your adopted children with no difference then biological children.
But I also still believe that some people have a biological need to get pregnant. (ofcourse, you can always "fight against" the need). I mean, it's a natural thing to get pregnant.

[toolbox]

I am on both sides of the fence.
There are so many kids that don't have parents that care for them, so many orphans.
I told my boyfriend that I think I would rather adopt than make another life.
But then, I thought about it more, and I would like to have at least on biological child; not because I 'feel the need' but because if anything ever happened to me or to him, at least we would have a part of each other in our child.
But, then again, I would rather adopt if it really came down to it.
You're helping to make a life better, and not creating a life that could get worse.
xxoo
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